Never Split the Difference

Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It

eBook, 288 pages

English language

Published May 16, 2016 by Harper Business.

ISBN:
9780062407818

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3 stars (1 review)

A former international hostage negotiator for the FBI offers a new, field-tested approach to high-stakes negotiations—whether in the boardroom or at home.

After a stint policing the rough streets of Kansas City, Missouri, Chris Voss joined the FBI, where his career as a hostage negotiator brought him face-to-face with a range of criminals, including bank robbers and terrorists. Reaching the pinnacle of his profession, he became the FBI’s lead international kidnapping negotiator. Never Split the Difference takes you inside the world of high-stakes negotiations and into Voss’s head, revealing the skills that helped him and his colleagues succeed where it mattered most: saving lives. In this practical guide, he shares the nine effective principles—counterintuitive tactics and strategies—you too can use to become more persuasive in both your professional and personal life.

Life is a series of negotiations you should be prepared for: buying a car, negotiating a salary, buying a …

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3 stars

I was recommended this one as an approach to dealing with difficult conversations in life where you have a vested interest in a particular outcome.

It was great to read about some of the crazy situations the author has been in and the information in the book is presented as a set of conversational tools used to get your way.

I think I see them as more of things to be aware of. I'm not sure most of them were things I'd actively try to use in conversation with anyone. It feels too manipulative to me -- obviously this might be fine in a life or death situation, less so getting a better deal in a shop.

I can definitely imagine these tactics working on me without any particular effort, so I'm interested to spot them next time.

I did like the alternatives to saying yes/no, though - as ways …

Subjects

  • Negotiation
  • Negotiation in business
  • Business communication
  • Business
  • Communication
  • Psychology
  • Persuasion
  • Influence
  • Emotional intelligence
  • Hostage negotiation
  • FBI
  • FBI negotiation tactics